After Death Communications – ADC

My post: Signs From Spirit a couple of days ago, has generated a bit of a debate.
Most of us who have lost a loved one, find that we cannot have enough on the subject. Responding to a comment, I suggested that it would be nice to have a “signsbulary,” the equivalent of a vocabulary for signs from Spirit.
Trying to make an example of what I meant I wrote: flicking pages… oh here it is:
CD pops out of CD player= the song was finished, he didn’t walk out in the middle of the song. As I wrote that, I suddenly realized that that had been the CD’s message.
Not that this makes it hurt less. But I’ve never blamed Andrew, or being angry with him and to see him being so sweet, trying to explain… to me, to us… Our sweet, sweet boy!

Ultimately I don’t think that a Signsbulary is altogether possible, given that all such “messages” are personal in nature. They are “custom-made” to fit the personalities involved in the communication.
That being said however, for those like me who are interested, here is a piece sent to me by my friend Maneha: After Death Communications – ADC by Bill Guggenheim & Judy Guggenheim, that helps recognize the many ways in which those in Spirit communicate with us.
I would love to hear from anyone who has had After Death Communications in any of the ways described below or any other ways.

Esmeralda

©1995; by Bill Guggenheim & Judy Guggenheim

Have you been contacted by a loved one who has died? After-death communication (ADC) is probably as old as mankind, but ours is the first complete research study of this field. These spiritual experiences are extremely common, and in many other parts of the world they are discussed openly and freely.

Between 1988 & 1995, we interviewed 2,000 people who live in all fifty American states and the ten Canadian provinces. Ranging in age from children to the elderly, they represent diverse social, educational, economic, occupational, and religious backgrounds. We conservatively estimate that at least 50 million Americans, or 20% of the population, have had one or more ADC experiences – and the actual numbers may be closer to double these figures!

We collected more than 3,300 firsthand accounts of ADCs from people who have been contacted by a deceased family member or friend. These are spontaneous and direct communications that may occur anytime and anywhere, but no third parties such as psychics, mediums, hypnotists, or devices of any kind are involved.

Based upon our research, the following are the twelve most frequent types of after-death communication people report having with their deceased loved ones:

Sensing A Presence: This is the most common form of contact. But many people discount these experiences, thinking, “Oh, I’m just imagining this.” It’s a distinct feeling that your loved one is nearby, even though he or she can’t be seen or heard. Though most often felt during the days and weeks immediately after the death, you may sense his or her presence months and even years later.

Hearing A Voice: Some people state they hear an external voice, the same as when a living person is speaking to them. However, the majority of communications are by telepathy – you hear the voice of your relative or friend in your mind. When you have two-way communication, it is usually by telepathy. In fact, it’s possible to have an entire conversation this way.

Feeling A Touch: You may feel your loved one touch you with his or her hand, or place an arm around your shoulders or back, for comfort and reassurance. You may feel a tap, a pat, a caress, a stroke, a kiss, or even a hug. These are all forms of affection, nurturing, and love.

Smelling A Fragrance: You may smell your relative’s or friend’s favorite cologne, after-shave lotion, or perfume. Other common aromas are: flowers (especially roses), bath powders, tobacco products, favorite foods, and his or her personal scent.

Visual Experiences: There are a wide variety of visual experiences, which we have divided into two broad categories: partial visual and full visual ADCs. Appearances range from “a transparent mist” to “absolutely solid” with many gradations in between. You may see only the head and shoulders of your relative or friend, or someone you love may make a full appearance to you, and you will see the entire body as well, which will appear completely solid. Some visual ADCs occur in the bedroom, next to or at the foot of the bed. Others may happen anywhere – indoors or outdoors – even in a car or aboard a plane. Typically he or she will be expressing love and well-being with a radiant smile. Loved ones virtually always appear healed and whole regardless of their cause of death. Verbal communication may take place, but not always.

Visions: You may see an image of a deceased loved one in a “picture” that is either two-dimensional and flat or three-dimensional like a hologram. It’s like seeing a 35 mm slide or a movie suspended in the air. Visions are usually in radiant colors and may be seen externally with your eyes open or internally in your mind. Communication may occur, especially during meditation.

Twilight Experiences: These occur in the alpha state – as you’re falling asleep, waking up, meditating, or praying. You may have any or all of the above types of experiences while you are in this state of consciousness.

ADC Experiences While Asleep: Sleep-state ADCs are much more vivid, intense, colorful, and real than dreams. They are very common. Both one-way and two-way communications are typical. You usually feel your loved one is with you in person – that you’re having an actual visit together. These experiences are not jumbled, filled with symbols, or fragmented the way dreams are.

Sleep-state ADCs are similar to those that occur when you are wide awake. Your relative or friend can come to you more easily, however, when you are relaxed, open, and receptive, such as while you are in the alpha state or asleep.

Out-Of-Body ADCs: These may occur while you are asleep or in a meditative state. They are dramatic experiences during which you leave your body and often visit your loved one at the place or level where he or she exists. These are extremely vivid, intense, and real – some say, “more real than physical life.” The environments usually contain beautiful flowers and butterflies, colorful bushes and trees, radiant lighting, and other lovely aspects of nature – and are filled with happiness, love, and joy.

Telephone Calls: These ADCs may occur during sleep or when you are wide awake. You will hear a phone ringing, and if you answer it, your loved one will give you a short message. Two-way conversations are possible. His or her voice will usually be clear but may seem far away. If you are awake, you will probably not hear a disconnect sound or a dial tone when the call is completed.

Physical Phenomena: People who are bereaved often report receiving a wide variety of physical signs from their deceased relative or friend, such as: lights or lamps blinking on and off; lights, radios, televisions, stereos, and mechanical objects being turned on; photographs, pictures, and various other items being turned over or moved; and a long list of “things that go bump in the night.”

Symbolic ADCs: People frequently ask a Higher Power, the universe, or their deceased loved one for a sign that he or she still exists. Many receive such a sign, though it may take some time to arrive. Occasionally these signs are so subtle they may be missed, or they may be discounted as mere “coincidences.” Common signs include: butterflies, rainbows, many species of birds and animals, flowers, and a variety of inanimate objects such as coins and pictures.

According to our research, the purpose of these visits and signs by those who have died is to offer comfort, reassurance, and hope to their parents, spouse, siblings, children, grandchildren, other family members, and friends. They want you to know they’re still alive and that you’ll be reunited with them when it’s your time to leave this physical life on earth – and they’ll be there to greet you when you make your transition. Their most frequent messages, expressed verbally or non-verbally, include:

“I’m okay … I’m fine … Everything is okay … Don’t worry about me …

Don’t grieve for me … Please let me go … I’m happy … Everything will be all right …

Go on with your life … Please forgive … Thank you … I’ll always be there for you …

I’m watching over you … I’ll see you again … I love you … Good-bye …”

You may be asked to give a message from your loved one to somebody else. We urge you to write down the message verbatim and to deliver it, if possible, because it may help the recipient far more than you realize.

Nearly all ADCs are positive, joyful, and uplifting encounters that reduce grief, provide lasting comfort and hope, and accelerate emotional and spiritual healing. We encourage you to trust your own experiences and to accept them as being real for you.

Unfortunately, some people react with fear when they have an ADC. This is usually because they are startled by the suddenness of the event, or they may have never heard of one happening to anybody else. Such people may assume they are “losing their mind and going crazy.” And others find it difficult to reconcile after-death communications with their philosophical or religious beliefs.

Not all people are contacted by their deceased loved ones. We don’t know for certain why some are and some aren’t, but it seems that fear, anger, and prolonged heavy grief inhibit the possibility of having an ADC.

Based upon our research, we suggest the following: Ask for a sign that your relative or friend continues to exist. Pray for him or her and others who are affected by the death, including yourself. We recommend that you learn how to meditate, especially if you are currently bereaved or have unresolved grief. Meditation will enable you to relax and soften any fear or anger you may have. It will reduce your depression, improve your ability to eat and sleep, and facilitate your healing process. These deep relaxation exercises will also allow you to unfold your inner, intuitive senses. In fact, you may have an ADC experience while you are meditating.

Our research indicates that after-death communications are a natural and normal part of life. Therefore, we feel ADCs deserve the same public awareness and acceptance that near-death experiences (NDEs) have already received.

For most people, an after-death communication from a deceased family member or friend is valued as a sacred and profound experience that will be cherished for a lifetime. ADC experiences usually expand one’s understanding of life and offer a deeper awareness of life after death. They consistently communicate an essential spiritual message: “Life and love are eternal.”

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8 thoughts on “After Death Communications – ADC

  1. Wanted to let you know I check your site every day as I am also on this journey of surviving suicide — along with you. As I have posted before, I lost an ex with whom I was incredibly close. I had communication with him through a medium also with a song spontaneously playing on my phone – one I had never listened to before which had lines that mimicked a conversation I just had with a friend. I’ve also smelled his cologne twice — but that could be coincidence – someone else wearing it too?

    • Kate, I am glad to learn that you read my blog every day. Can you tell us more about the telephone experience?
      Love, Esmeralda

  2. I will share . . . but most will find this odd to unbelievable, and maybe even hokey. But it really happened. This occurred about 25 years ago. My boyfriend at the time (who is now my husband) had recently experienced the death of the woman who raised him. His birth mother had died when he was 9 months old and his father was unfit to take care of him so “this mom” and her husband raised him. While in college he resided with an elderly widow (V) for free in exchange for house duties, protecting her, walking her dog, etc. She was a wise woman, a writer here and abroad. A few years after we got our own place, hearing that his mom had died, V invited us to her home to “play a game” where you can talk with spirits or the deceased. She said that she had been having amazing experiences talking with her deceased husband and a spiritual guide through this “game” she was introduced to by a couple in her neighborhood.

    When we arrived the neighbors from across the street greeted us. Inside V’s home they proceeded to set up scrabble pieces in a circle on a table. It reminded me of a a Ouji board and I said so. They said it was a similar concept. They also had a few common words spelled out on paper: and, the, yes, no, etc. There were five of us. They chose a wine glass to place upside down in the middle of the words and letters that could easily glide. They lit a white candle (I think they said it promotes good friendly spirits) and said positive things inviting friendly spirits to communicate. I had a yellow pad and pen and sat off to the side, my hand did not touch the wine glass. The participants, my husband, V, and the couple from across the street (who I had never met before), put a finger lightly on the upside down wine glass and it proceeded to spell out things. I copied every letter and would try and figure out where spacing would go and the message that was being spelled. There was communication to all those that were at the table, spiritual guides were identified, etc. The glass moved pretty fast and much was spelled and communicated. Remember, I was not at the table but off to the side.

    After about a half hour of this there was a communication that no one could relate to. It said “Margaret for CF hugs and kisses xoxoxo” Everyone else was quiet wondering what that meant. Then I said, “I think it’s for me.” I was not touching the glass, no one knew who Margaret was or my experience with her. So I said, “I wonder if it is Nanny” and it spelled out yes. I was invited to sit at the table (I know, this would have been a better story if I never sat at the table) and switched places with someone. There were other communications from her – but she especially wanted me to communicate to my mother for her, how she was often with her in the kitchen, etc. After it was all over I felt bizarre. I wondered how I would tell my mom without her thinking I was nuts. When we left the home we visited – my boyfriend and I were in separate cars for some reason – and though I was physically alone in my car, I felt like someone was with me the entire time, I felt a presence. I kept checking my rear view mirror. I called my mom when I got home and she didn’t flinch with what I had to say, she said, “I believe you, I feel her all the time.”

    I think my husband and I tried to do “the game” 2 other times in our own home with others, without the original participants and without success. I’m not sure what that was about. I think I was fearful of what I would hear and maybe it created a block. The experience with those who participated with us the first time, felt safe, maybe because they were experienced with it, were special people, and we didn’t have an extended history with them. But sometimes I think, maybe they moved it and it was all a coincidence. My gut at the time said I experienced something mysterious and very special. Some of what the others heard related to themselves on that day was not easy for me to hear (like someone was a previous lover in another life) and maybe that scared me out of pursuing it further. I was in a distracted state for a few days, intrigued by what I experienced. It eventually wore off and I went on with my life. We didn’t pursue it again. The elderly woman is deceased and we never had contact with her friends/neighbors again.

    I’m not an easily influenced person, I can be skeptical . . . but something special happened that day. I know this recall is not what that article was looking for – in fact it specifically avoids research related to this type of communication. My family members have experienced many of the communications described by the Guggenheims. Dear friends of mine whose family member died by suicide in their home, experience many physical phenomena. They feel touches, sense a presence, lights go on and off, doors lock, photographs change, etc. I do not think they have attempted to communicate with their loved one. Their response to these communications has been mostly reactive so far.

    Not sure if this is what you were looking for . . . I think you are able to access my email, feel free to contact me if you have questions.

    Blessings

    • Hi, Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed account. I and I am sure the other readers appreciate it. And if you read what I wrote in the comment section of today’s post, you’ll see that I wrote of an experience I had today. So glad to hear from you, by the way. Esmeralda

  3. ADC – hmm thats what it’s called. ;
    I have been experiencing this since a recent trip across or nde – near death experience(actually a death experience). I would prefer to call it something else as spirit beings aren’t dead and don’t like being called that either. As the’re still alive.
    I started having experiences about 2 yrs after the intial trip. I started seeing beings occasionaly. Due to the nature of my trip across I was seeing a dr and a therapist. I had some trauma associated with my trip. My therapist suggested that I start communicating with the beings I was seeing. Actually I was just thrilled to see or have the experience.
    To communicate – WoW – besides seeing I could feel spirit beings coming in my space. I would just know the person was there. It is 8 yrs later. I continue to have these communications on a regular basis.
    It feels like I have a foot in each world. It’s part of my normal life. Its like my own episode of the twilight zone. As I started communicating – possibilitis would show up to communicate. To learn how, notice, feel, listen and confirm. Many times these communications have to do with other people. I recognized that I came back from my trip with several spiritual gifts. Over time the gifts seem to expand. These communications stretch me. As I know this is part of my life’s purpose to assist others in healing.
    Its powerful, interesting, sometimes funny, and a learning process each time I meet someone new!

  4. I would like to share my ADC with our son Billy who crossed over on June 26 2004. With the los of our son Billy, one of my goals was to try to find a way of being able to connect with him.
    I tried several way’s on my own with no success, as in praying, medetating,through dreams. Then wife wife was talking with a friend of hers who went through the loss of a daughter, and she mentioned to my wife about a spirit medium – Vicki Monroe.
    We made an appointment with Vicki and it was the most amazing thing that I could have hoped for. Our reading with Vicki was detailed and very accurate.
    In the mean time I had been reading about different ways that our loved can and do communicate with us and one of theose ways that I thought that I could work with was throught photographs.
    About 3 months after our reading with Vivki Monroe I decided to take out my camera and start taking photographs at random to see if this could work for me, and sure enough it started working from the very first day I tried taking phictures. We have been able and continue to recieve many signs from Billy in the form of spirit orbs, streaking lights, spirit essence, golden orbs and our favorite the heart shaped images of the moon, street lights and christmas tree lights. For a more detailed story and a few pages of the type of signs that we continue to receive from Billy we have a website http://www.oursonbilly.com which anyone may visit.

    Have a great day
    Guy

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